I was asked this question yesterday. Is 25 Things Moms Hope Don’t Happen for the Holidays like the movie, “Bad Moms”? I always try to answer a question to the best of my ability. I don’t know. I haven’t seen the movie “Bad Moms”.
25 Things Moms hope don’t happen for the Holidays is a comedic novella but yet serious review of what expected of mothers during the holidays and throughout the year. It’s oftentimes isn’t in the realistic guideline of motherhood. It’s more like a what one would expect or order of a serf or servant. A mother or wife is not the family’s servant. She is the heart of every family. But that’s the common norm that she is the serf of the family. I said serf because a serf was much like a slave. Indented to the land for life.
To her family she’s a nurturer, a caretaker, and a source of unconditional love but it doesn’t means she doesn’t love her family because she correct them on their errors. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you because she make you pitch in on the chores.
I wrote it in contrast to all the bad news about moms out there. If it isn’t bad news, it’s so passive that you wonder does the poor woman have a spine at all. That’s not motherhood either. That’s an idealized person who never existed.
From my years of observation and experience in rearing children and I have helped raised many who were not my own. I find that children will test you. They aren’t going to respect a person who doesn’t enforce ground rules of what they can and can’t do. If you tell them to clean their room and two days later it’s still not clean. That says loud and clear they don’t respect your words. You have time enough to be their friend when they are adults. Until then, they must be taught that when you speak you aren’t playing with them. Don’t go ahead and clean the room because it’s easier than standing over them making them do it while they cry you don’t love them. You’re being cruel to them. Yes, those are hard words for any mother to hear but for the child’s benefit. Grit your teeth and bear them and make them clean that room. They will thank you for it years later.
I think I have lots of grounds to give advice on this subject for I’ve reared some very fine young people who turned into: a doctor, a lawyer, an eye doctor, a pharmacist, a psychiatrist, a nurse, a minister, a parole officer, and even one is a banker not to mention those in the military and other positions like managers and such. All this happened because I didn’t let up off of them when they didn’t want to do what they needed to do. There was 21 of them in all and only two were my own.