I didn’t write the original article. The author is listed below. But I thought it was an interesting and very true post.
But I think this mentally starts in early childhood. The child who is labeled the good child will often find themselves becoming the one in the family who is always there and relatives come to expect it. Parents, grandparents, or guardians often to fails to realize the child will continue this doormat behavior outside the home, making them an easy target for abusers.
No one should never burden a child with the responsibility that they must say yes to everything or everyone to be loved. A child shouldn’t be made believe they must give unconditional love to be loved in return. Unconditional love is unrealistic and only set the one doing the giving up for many heartaches. It create selfishness in the heart of the receiver.
A child shouldn’t be made feel guilty if they do not wish to do something. I’m not talking about teaching them responsibility like cleaning their room or caring about others. That’s what parenting are for. But some parents and relatives can be very manipulative and destroy the child’s self-esteem and make them feel as thus they must give and accept anything in order to be loved.
This is a form of social conditioning, mental controlling primarily men and boys aren’t constantly bombard with. It’s directed toward girls and women. If a woman is assertive and knows her worth and how to say no when a request, most often a command, doesn’t suit her agenda or fit into her schedule, she’s labeled selfish. If she demands something in return for her love she’s labeled a b*tch and much worst. If she refuse to forgive a wrong committed against her she’s labeled evil or unlovable or a horrible person.
I say teach your children rather boys or girls that people must earn their respect and love it’s not automatically given. That only God can give unconditional love. Humans can not.
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Thank you. 🙂
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Thanks everyone for their visit.
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You lose lots of friends you never had when you take a stance not to be taken for granted.
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That’s true but it’s better to know your worth.
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What’s this book about?
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Hi Dennis, this is not a book. It’s an article about not letting people take your kind nature for granted.
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Excellent.
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The worst part about this is a lot of people have the audacity to get angry at you if you won’t let them take you for granted.
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Then that tells you all you need to know about their motivation for associating with you.
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People have the notion that only their feeling matter is why this practice is so widespread.
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Unfortunately, that’s true.
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This post gets ten thumbs up!!!!!!!!!!
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Thank you. 🙂
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And an “Amen” too. Nowadays people feel entitled to treat you like crap and you are supposed to be happy while they are doing it! Like the boss who slapped the girl in the face in the restaurant in Georgia!
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Unfortunately, people do not practice common courtesy anymore.
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Excellent advice. Wish someone had told me this years ago.
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Hi Chasttiy, I’m happy it was useful.
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Last line is very remarkable.As woman I totally agree with you.Only God can love us unconditionally.
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I agree that only God can love unconditionally. Some people misunderstand what love is, Love doesn’t mean a person has to be willing take endless amount of abuse from them in order to love them. I’ve always felt that teaching set someone up for being taken advantage or taken for grant.
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Thanks
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I was reading a poem the other day where the person was telling someone they still loved them even after the person treated them like dirt and walked away. Nobody wants a wimp. All the so called love poems you read today are like this. When did love and treating people like sh*t become the same thing? Juveniles don’t know any betters but adults do.
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Hi Jeanna, I have no idea when did someone making you miserable come synonyms for “I love you” ?
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I agree, Don’t let anyone take you for granted not even your kids.
On Sat, May 12, 2018 at 4:29 AM, The Novel: UnHoly Pursuit: Devil on my Tra
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Hello, I think that I saw you visited my site so I came to return the favor.I am trying to find things to enhance my web site! I suppose its ok to use some of your ideas!! ddeabeekdcbc
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Hi, John you’re more than welcome to use my ideas. All I asked is link showing the original authors. Some posts are reblogs and I want to accredit the original author.
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I see many writers need to heed these words. Your work is going out far too cheap. Demand your worth and if someone doesn’t want to pay it then they don’t deserve to read it.
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Smithe, I agree but the rules were made long ago and the powerhouses in the literary world aren’t trying to change them.
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