Don’t Let Anyone Take You For Granted.

I didn’t write the original article. The author is listed below. But I thought it was an interesting and very true post.

But I think this mentally starts in early childhood. The child who is labeled the good child will often find themselves becoming the one in the family who is always there and relatives come to expect it.  Parents, grandparents, or guardians often to fails to realize the child will continue this doormat behavior outside the home, making them an easy target for abusers.

No one should never burden a child with the responsibility that they must say yes to everything or everyone to be loved. A child shouldn’t be made believe they must give unconditional love to be loved in return. Unconditional love is unrealistic and only set the one doing the giving up for many heartaches. It create selfishness in the heart of the receiver.

A child shouldn’t be made feel guilty if they do not wish to do something. I’m not talking about teaching them responsibility like cleaning their room or caring about others. That’s what parenting are for. But some parents and relatives can be very manipulative and destroy the child’s self-esteem and make them feel as thus they must give and accept anything in order to be loved.

This is a form of social conditioning, mental controlling primarily men and boys aren’t constantly bombard with. It’s directed toward girls and women. If a woman is assertive and knows her worth and how to say no when a request, most often a command, doesn’t suit her agenda or fit into her schedule, she’s labeled selfish. If she demands something in return for her love she’s labeled a b*tch and much worst. If she refuse to forgive a wrong committed against her she’s labeled evil or unlovable or a horrible person.

I say teach your children rather boys or girls that people must earn their respect and love it’s not automatically given. That only God can give unconditional love. Humans can not.

 

via Don’t Let Anyone Take You For Granted.

About unholypursuit

A. White, a former librarian who is also long time member of Romantic Time and Publisher's Weekly. A. White has been writing for over fifteen years. She took classes in creative writing in college, specializing in ancient myths and legends. and at a local community center while living in Chicago. In college she won the national contest to verbally list every country in the world, it's capital and ingenious language. Her works are mainly horror, fantasy, extreme, and sci-fi as well as, as some may says, "the truly strange predicament and puzzling." Books that I've written are "Clash with the Immortals, and eleven others which are part of the "Unholy Pursuit saga,". She has been working on the Chronicles since 2007. She wished to complete them all before introducing them to public so the readers wouldn't have to for the continuation to be written. The ideas of the book come from classic literature such as whose work greatly influence the world world such as Homer, Sophocles, Herodotus, Euripides, Socrates, Hippocrates, Aristophanes, Plato, Aristotle and many more. The "Book of Enoch" influenced the usage of Azazael as a main character and love interest. I created the primary main character from the Chronicle of Saints. I wanted to show them as real flesh and blood with thoughts, desires and yearning as any human. Not as they are so often depicted. So I created one of my own to show her as a real human that everyone can relate to.
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30 Responses to Don’t Let Anyone Take You For Granted.

  1. Thanks everyone for their visit.

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  2. Jack says:

    You lose lots of friends you never had when you take a stance not to be taken for granted.

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Lesile says:

    The worst part about this is a lot of people have the audacity to get angry at you if you won’t let them take you for granted.

    Liked by 1 person

  4. Dragthepen says:

    This post gets ten thumbs up!!!!!!!!!!

    Liked by 1 person

  5. Flo says:

    And an “Amen” too. Nowadays people feel entitled to treat you like crap and you are supposed to be happy while they are doing it! Like the boss who slapped the girl in the face in the restaurant in Georgia!

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  6. Chastity says:

    Excellent advice. Wish someone had told me this years ago.

    Liked by 2 people

  7. Last line is very remarkable.As woman I totally agree with you.Only God can love us unconditionally.

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    • I agree that only God can love unconditionally. Some people misunderstand what love is, Love doesn’t mean a person has to be willing take endless amount of abuse from them in order to love them. I’ve always felt that teaching set someone up for being taken advantage or taken for grant.

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  8. Lisa Warner says:

    I agree, Don’t let anyone take you for granted not even your kids.

    On Sat, May 12, 2018 at 4:29 AM, The Novel: UnHoly Pursuit: Devil on my Tra

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  10. Smithe says:

    I see many writers need to heed these words. Your work is going out far too cheap. Demand your worth and if someone doesn’t want to pay it then they don’t deserve to read it.

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