Politics, religion, and friends do not mix

Politics, religion, and friends do not mix. They’re like Romeo and Casanova. They are never going to be friends. (I’m not explaining what that means.) I am sure many of you have friends with views different from your own. I know I do. I have a friend whose religious views are vastly different from my own especially in the area of the treatment of women and women’ rights. She believes a woman place is in the home and I don’t. I believe a woman’s place is where the woman decides she wants to be. But we long ago worked out a system of not talking about certain things pertaining region when we are together. You respect my belief and I’ll respect yours. Let’s shut up and eat dinner.

I have some friends who political views are vastly different from my own. Again, we had to come to the same conclusion. The political ones were harder to work with than the religion ones. We all met through mutual friends whom they and I shared the same views on many things. But after a few shouting matches the four of us came to a conclusion that it was ridiculous and just stopped it.

I am sure everyone has noticed the very combustive attitudes of today pertaining one thing or another.

I wasn’t around in the 1960’s but an older friend of mine’s who said this is what it was like before things smooth out in the 70’s. She said, actually, it was much worst back then than today. I asked her how did people smooth things out. She laughed and said. “We didn’t or you young people wouldn’t be misbehaving now. We just eventually stopped yelling at each other. Remember there were no internet back then so you had to go in the streets, go to their house, or call them on the phone to yell at the person you disagreed with and if you yelled too much on the phone the company would turn off your service.” LOL!

But the only way thing are going to calm down is everyone is going to have to stop all the yelling and start listening with an open mind to the other side’s point of view. I’m not talking about if their point of view is filled with hate and are harmful. By no means listen or you might become what they are. None of the people I’m talking about have hateful views. I would say some are sexist. But I haven’t known them to act them out to harm anyone. I doubt many know he’s a modest Republican and she’s a die-hard stay-at-home-mom. LOL! No, these two are not married to each other. I doubt they know each other. I didn’t learn these things either until years later when certain issues came up in get a normal together conversation.  They never preached their belief to me nor I to them.

Listening doesn’t always means you have intentions of doing it or even changing your view of things. But listening means you are telling the other person. “I respect you enough to listen to what you have to say and hope you can do the same.” Listening is a two way street not a one way street. 

And when you listen, never tell another how they could feel. I listen to people all the time. I have had people tell me how one of my books made them feel. 

The problem of today is no one is listening, everyone is yelling.

About unholypursuit

A. White, an award winning former librarian, who is also a long time member of Romantic Time and Publisher's Weekly. A. White has been writing for over fifteen years. She took classes in creative writing in college, specializing in ancient myths and legends. and later at a local community center while living in Chicago. In college she won the national contest to verbally list every country in the world, it's capital and ingenious language. Her works are mainly horror, fantasy, extreme, and sci-fi as well as, as some may says, "the truly strange predicament and puzzling." Books that I've written are "Clash with the Immortals, and eleven others which are part of the "Unholy Pursuit saga,". She has been working on the Chronicles since 2007. She wished to complete them all before introducing them to public so the readers wouldn't have to for the continuation to be written. The ideas of the book come from classic literature such as whose work greatly influence the world world such as Homer, Sophocles, Herodotus, Euripides, Socrates, Hippocrates, Aristophanes, Plato, Aristotle and many more. The "Book of Enoch" influenced the usage of Azazael as a main character and love interest. I created the primary main character from the Chronicle of Saints. I wanted to show them as real flesh and blood with thoughts, desires and yearning as any human. Not as they are so often depicted. So I created one of my own to show her as a real human that everyone can relate to.
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9 Responses to Politics, religion, and friends do not mix

  1. lbeth1950 says:

    I refuse to discuss politics or religion with family and friends. It makes us all think less of the other.

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  2. janowrite says:

    A great post. 🙂

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  3. Dave Hurst says:

    I disagree. If you can’t talk about it with your friends then who can you talk about things with? Friends agree to disagree. Any one who thinks less of you because you don’t agree with everything they say is not your friend. Friends can argue and forget and still be friends.

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    • Dave, I think it all depends upon the type of friendship you and the individual have. Some friendships can weather anything, others can not. Some friends are more sensitive than others. You have to consider their sensitivity before venturing on a subject. It doesn’t mean the sensitive one is any less of a friend than the hard core one you go to help you hide a body. (Just kidding.) They have different ways of showing it.

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  4. Amanda Stevens says:

    In the company of acquaintances, no, it doesn’t mix but in the company of real friends it does and can mix. It can be discussed. Real friends can talk about anything and remain friends. If someone think less of you for speaking on delicate topics then they were never your friend to lose.

    Real friends do not ask nor demand that you bend your belief and opinions to match theirs. Acquaintances do.It’s acquaintances, who are merely letting the thoughts they already habored about you come through when you disagree with them. It hasn’t just developed. It was already there. They’re merely using your opinion or the topic as an avenue to let it surface. You can’t lose that you never had.

    It’s acquaintances whom you must be perfect for or at least their idea of perfect. Not real friends.

    A real friend can learn the worst thing there’s to know about you and do not withhold their friendship. There’s a big difference between a friend and an acquaintance. When troubles come acquaintances and fair weather friends are gone. They don’t know you anymore. But a real friend stick by your side in rain or sunshine.

    Those who truly matters in your life don’t mind if your opinions and ideas aren’t a parrot of their owns. It those who don’t matter are the ones who care about such things.

    On Sun, Aug 5, 2018 at 12:13 PM, The Novel: UnHoly Pursuit: Devil on my Tra

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    • Ok, you have a point. How about I rephrase it to “acquaintances and politics don’t mix.” You hit the nail dead on the head. Someone who truly cares about you and like you doesn’t care about these things.

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  5. Pingback: Real Friends Don’t Mind. Acquaintances and friends are not the same.~ by Amanda Stevens | The Novel: UnHoly Pursuit: Devil on my Trail

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