Politics, religion, and friends do not mix. They’re like Romeo and Casanova. They are never going to be friends. (I’m not explaining what that means.) I am sure many of you have friends with views different from your own. I know I do. I have a friend whose religious views are vastly different from my own especially in the area of the treatment of women and women’ rights. She believes a woman place is in the home and I don’t. I believe a woman’s place is where the woman decides she wants to be. But we long ago worked out a system of not talking about certain things pertaining region when we are together. You respect my belief and I’ll respect yours. Let’s shut up and eat dinner.
I have some friends who political views are vastly different from my own. Again, we had to come to the same conclusion. The political ones were harder to work with than the religion ones. We all met through mutual friends whom they and I shared the same views on many things. But after a few shouting matches the four of us came to a conclusion that it was ridiculous and just stopped it.
I am sure everyone has noticed the very combustive attitudes of today pertaining one thing or another.
I wasn’t around in the 1960’s but an older friend of mine’s who said this is what it was like before things smooth out in the 70’s. She said, actually, it was much worst back then than today. I asked her how did people smooth things out. She laughed and said. “We didn’t or you young people wouldn’t be misbehaving now. We just eventually stopped yelling at each other. Remember there were no internet back then so you had to go in the streets, go to their house, or call them on the phone to yell at the person you disagreed with and if you yelled too much on the phone the company would turn off your service.” LOL!
But the only way thing are going to calm down is everyone is going to have to stop all the yelling and start listening with an open mind to the other side’s point of view. I’m not talking about if their point of view is filled with hate and are harmful. By no means listen or you might become what they are. None of the people I’m talking about have hateful views. I would say some are sexist. But I haven’t known them to act them out to harm anyone. I doubt many know he’s a modest Republican and she’s a die-hard stay-at-home-mom. LOL! No, these two are not married to each other. I doubt they know each other. I didn’t learn these things either until years later when certain issues came up in get a normal together conversation. They never preached their belief to me nor I to them.
Listening doesn’t always means you have intentions of doing it or even changing your view of things. But listening means you are telling the other person. “I respect you enough to listen to what you have to say and hope you can do the same.” Listening is a two way street not a one way street.
And when you listen, never tell another how they could feel. I listen to people all the time. I have had people tell me how one of my books made them feel.
The problem of today is no one is listening, everyone is yelling.