I see it all over the place. There are zillions of posts, poems, movies, books all over place of someone else making someone happy. No, they didn’t. You chose to be happy with that person from the way they treated you. Their generous treatment and kindness caused you to open your heart to their love.
Physical attraction isn’t love. It may or may not blossom into love. But if it does that’s great.
Now, the revert of their action can make you sad and cause great pain if their affection is withheld or your returned affection is abused. Yes, there’s pain but only you can decide how long you’ll hold on or cling to the pain. Only you can decide when to give it up they won’t change and seek a new love. No one else can do that for you.
You can’t see forward in life and love constantly if you’re looking back over that which you can not change nor return to the past and change it. Like I said in the post about time. We only have a limited number of years to exist. Why waste them on someone whom you aren’t in their heart and thoughts when you can be living your life and seeking someone who can see the love you have to give and appreciate it?
In books and movies suffering for unrequited love is romantic but in reality it is not. I have heard it said, “that a heart wants what a heart wants.” Maybe true but the mind and body is whose doing the hurting so they need to tell the heart to shut up and move on. It isn’t like the person died. It’s they simply left the relationship for whatever reason.
After a break up, people often feels they aren’t lovable because of one person’s opinion. Says who that you aren’t lovable any more? Never enter a relationship solely to see yourself through the eyes of another. It’s wonderful if you find that special someone in whose face light up the moment they see you. There’s no grander feeling. But if things doesn’t work out learn to pull back not become a heart hermit refusing to love again.
If your conscious actions contributed to the breakup then be frank and honest with yourself as to why they left. You can’t say you wasn’t expecting it. You knew it would someday happen if you didn’t mend your ways. So what’s all the crying and lamentations about when you did this to yourself?
When I say only you can make you happy I am not speaking of situations beyond your control. I am strictly speaking of situations within your control. So, start making yourself happy and others will see your happiness and wants to be a part of it.
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