Sex or love making scenes in novels are a big part of making it interesting for a lot of readers. While on the other hand, some readers prefer the sex or love scene not to be described. They prefer them as the scenes in the old movies where the scene fades away with the couple kissing and reopens with the couple sitting talking or at breakfast. We all have seen these old movies. They say they prefer not to read the sex scenes that they know the mechanic works. I say to each their own.
How the scene is described depends upon the relationship between the characters. Romance plays a big role in the scene also. Again, this depends on the type of stories you are writing. For example, if you are writing a novel about a couple’s attraction to each other in the middle of a war or other violent dysfunction then there isn’t going to be much time for romance when no one knows if they will survive through the next attack by their enemy.
But if you aren’t. There are different ways to describe and even distinguish the strictly sex scenes from the making love scenes in a novel without the scene reading like porn. Emotions are the key. If a couple is in love and there are going to be making love scenes. Describe the couple expressing their love tenderly for each other more deeply than the actual act of sex itself. Too much sex description can land your book into the erotica section even if it wasn’t intended for that genre. The strictly sex scenes, well there isn’t much anyone can do with those except leave out the biological and psychical descriptions. I haven’t found a way to write these yet without they being exactly what they are.
Why do I say these things? Because the puritanical influence in America is still alive and well. It’s here, there, and everywhere and still influencing our daily lives as well as our writings and arts.
I just finished reading a book set in the early Middle Ages where this guy ( a king) is so noble and so in love with this woman he doesn’t even kiss her. The closest he comes to physically showing his affection is taking her hand and kneeling before her and profoundly confessing his love. He marries her but stay away from her in that aspect. I was like…really? What village is this king hailed from??? The story said but I’m not going to tell for you will be able to find the book. But that’s an unrealistic element to place in a story when you know there’s a very slim possibility that’s what happened. I know why it was put in there to make the couple seems asexual because that was all the rave in the Middle Ages and that their love was enough to satisfy them both. I have heard of such couples but they were religious figures and that wasn’t the case in this book.
I turned idea over in my head, trying to imagine how could I work out a scene of where Azazel is going ballistic and Ana is trying to stop him. Blinding him with glory would works for a little while. But once he regains his sight he’s back up swinging again. I tried to see how would it work with Ana stopping Azazel from killing someone by offering him her hand to kiss. Sure, he would kiss it with great affection and then still turn around kill whomever he’s after. That’s why she grabs him and kissed him on the mouth to make him shut up, stop yelling, and fighting because I just can’t see how kissing her hand would control him. He kisses her hand a lot anyway on his own merit.
Excessive anything can drag a story down. If you are going to add excessive scenes then the book will need to be no less than 600 pages so you can space out the incidents. Even if it’s actions. If the characters can’t take two steps without getting in a fight or brawl with someone and it isn’t a war story then you need to tone down the fighting. Even if it’s a war story there needs to be time he or she takes a break from fighting to plans for battle unless there’s only one battle scene which is the pinnacle of the novel or they will seems like they are running out battlefield without a plan or clue as to what they are doing. In short, there has to be some form of communication. Well, sex and love scenes are the same. It’s best to romantically describe what leads up to the sex or love scene to avoid your books being labeled erotica when that wasn’t the genre you were aiming for.
Just remember in writing just as in life. Do all things with moderation. 😉