Who is the real you? Do you know?

I was reading a post the other day where the young woman said, “People are always telling me to be myself but who is the real me? But who is the real me I can safely show to the world. The real anyone? No one shows their real, private face in public. It’s not acceptable and the internet make it’s harder for people to be real than not. I can’t reveal the real me. People wants to see the me they have in their minds of who I’m. Not who I am. No one wants to know or even bother to see the real me. No one wants to know that I’m every thing I’ve experienced in life.”

These aren’t her exact words but close enough. I thought about this post for several days and realize the writer was quite young but was right. Most have worn so many different “real you” they no longer know which one is real.

I don’t know what she experienced in life but I hope they help her to see that revealing her real self is a beautiful thing. That her real self is buried deep beneath all the smiling faces society forces her to wear cover her real face. To let her real face through and I’m sure it will shine and some will love it.

I would like her to know, yes, there will be some who walk away from you when they see you aren’t who they want you to be. But still be true to yourself because it’s you who will have live with yourself when all settles down and all is quiet.

I would like her to know that as you age and mature what others think of you matters less and less. It shrinks, it get smaller and smaller to the point you wake up one day not giving a damn.

This is liberating. It set you free to reveal the real you. No one is perfect. We all have faults and failures which leaves no one room to judge another. Anyone who say they are perfect and has never committed a wrong is a liar. No particular wrong isn’t greater than another. Wrong is wrong no matter who committed it.

Usually, a post doesn’t stay with me for a entire week but this one did because she sounded so lost and hurt someone was judging her. I want to tell her that whatever someone is judging her about that life is too short to waste time and energy worrying about them. They are projecting upon you their own opinion of themselves and don’t claim their feelings as her own.

I don’t have all the answers in the world. No one does but I do know that oftentimes you may have to walk though this world alone with no one at your side. That isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Walk it, don’t let whatever someone else is feeling or thinking keep you from making your journey. Keep revealing your true self. Some aren’t going to like you no matter which face you reveal. That’s their problem, not yours. Some are going to always follow popular opinion. These are not the kind of people you need around you. You need people around you who are steadfast in their thinking and opinion who won’t be wavered like a sheet blowing in the wind. So reveal your real face so you won’t have to worry about changing masks.

All we all can do is do our best and be at peace that we have done the best we could.

About unholypursuit

A. White, an award winning former librarian, who is also a long time member of Romantic Time and Publisher's Weekly. A. White has been writing for over fifteen years. She took classes in creative writing in college, specializing in ancient myths and legends. and later at a local community center while living in Chicago. In college she won the national contest to verbally list every country in the world, it's capital and ingenious language. Her works are mainly horror, fantasy, extreme, and sci-fi as well as, as some may says, "the truly strange predicament and puzzling." Books that I've written are "Clash with the Immortals, and eleven others which are part of the "Unholy Pursuit saga,". She has been working on the Chronicles since 2007. She wished to complete them all before introducing them to public so the readers wouldn't have to for the continuation to be written. The ideas of the book come from classic literature such as whose work greatly influence the world world such as Homer, Sophocles, Herodotus, Euripides, Socrates, Hippocrates, Aristophanes, Plato, Aristotle and many more. The "Book of Enoch" influenced the usage of Azazael as a main character and love interest. I created the primary main character from the Chronicle of Saints. I wanted to show them as real flesh and blood with thoughts, desires and yearning as any human. Not as they are so often depicted. So I created one of my own to show her as a real human that everyone can relate to.
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32 Responses to Who is the real you? Do you know?

  1. UpwardJourneys says:

    Absolutely x

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    • Thank you for visiting. I think the younger generation rely too much on the opinion of others to validate their worth. It’s no fault of their owns. It’s the society they were born into. Everywhere we look we see something you must buy this or wear that to be accepted. You must know who so and so is be hip. You must live in such and such zip code to be happy. We constantly see things like ‘how many likes’ a person has online. How many members there are on their account. I can’t help but wonder being born and raised in this kind of constant comparison to others, defeating atmosphere…the impact it must have on someone’s self-esteem must be devastating? How often they measure themselves against someone’s opinion for validation of who they are? To determine their self worth?

      Even search engines won’t pick up a blog or post if it doesn’t have a sufficient amount of traffic. Her post didn’t have any comments and just a few likes. I couldn’t help but wonder how she felt about that? I think we as a society are going to have to work harder to save our young people from this totally ridiculous method of assessing their worth.


      • UpwardJourneys says:

        I know I felt very much like that. I was such an insecure young person. It is something I have had to heal from. It is the product of consumerism. Disgusting.

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        • Consumerism within itself isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It’s a part of every day life. It’s when society manipulate people emotions constantly is when it become unhealthy. All companies seeks to sell their products but I don’t think people could be made feel inadequate because they don’t buy it or can not afford it.

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  2. lula says:


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  3. Ann H says:

    NOW! This is the A. M. White I am used to sitting down talking to. She doesn’t go anywhere nearly as deep speaking publicly as she can go. I think it’s because most people can’t think that deep. She and I have talked, and she has gone deep. Spoke of many things. Alma has a mind that could match even the world greatest thinkers.

    I’ve known you for five years but was aware of these things. That you are an empath. A real one. Not someone who’s pretending to be one. What you have endured and withstood with remarkable, commendable grace and resilience, I salute you.

    I knew there was something different about the first day I met you through our mutual friend. The first time I met you I saw and sensed a dignity, strength, grace, and resilience in you.I haven’t seen in years. It’s seen in your eyes, face, and pose. I saw something in you which I hadn’t seen in people since meeting and getting to know people of another era who had truly been tested by life in ways most of us can’t imagine. I commemorate you for carrying on an art of dignity that’s lost to the modern world. I don’t know who but someone passed a helluva legacy onto you. I don’t know was it your parents, grandparents but you possess the same quality I have seen in women like Aretha Franklin, Angela Davis, and many others long before your time.

    That’s why I stress to you over and over don’t change your writings to appease the puerile, attention span deprived public. Keep steady on the course you are on. You can go far deeper and write more authentic than most writers of today. Don’t change it. You don’t know it yet but it’s really like the lady said, “you’re the famous one.”

    You don’t write scene after scene where the woman or child are being constantly brutalized by some idiot. Your books may have such a scene to emphasize a point, but your characters don’t stay down, wring their hands and crying. They come back up swinging and kicking ass. They don’t deprive into state of victimization, you write scenes of strong women. Women who have had to fight to survive and refuse to lay down and die. She may die but she’s taking her abuser with her. And to top it off you go in logic explaining why the person had it coming.

    For those of you who don’t know what you just witnessed. You witnessed a real empath absorbing someone’s pain.

    On Fri, Aug 17, 2018 at 3:35 AM,

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    • Ann, don’t make me blush. It’s you who has a helluva legacy. One which that I don’t even begin to fathom or match. But what you see is what my mother instilled in me. That’s whom I have to thanks.


  4. Dragthepen says:

    I thank you for this post. Today is the first that I am with out my partner, no he didn’t pass away I decided to leave him because I couldn’t be my true self. I had to move very far from my family due to the high cost of rent. Today is the first day I felt like crying. I made the mistake of giving up my wonderful place close to my family and moved in with him. but he wanted me to change. I can’t I like who I am. Today, I am walking alone and don’t know how long its going to take for me to get my life back to what I call normal. thank you for this post. its spreads hope.

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    • You are utmost welcome. That’s what I post them for in hope they helps someone. I’m truly sorry things didn’t work out. But don’t cry. It’s his lost not yours. And I am sure he probably realize that by now.

      We all make mistakes in life and love. It’s a learning progress everyone goes through so don’t feel you are alone, if everyone be truthful, everyone know they have fallen for someone at some point who was not the best person for them.
      But being alone is not a bad thing if a person wants that. I don’t know why society tries to convince women it is. It’s freeing. I didn’t want my husband to pass away and did everything within my power to prevent it but the years I had to carry on without him taught me to stand on my own two feet. It hurts at first, that’s only natural. You’re human but as time pass it lessen the pain. You know what? Life can be funny. Sometimes when one door closes the one where we belongs opens at the least expected time.

      The bad thing here is someone trying to change you. When you love someone you love them just the way they are. You wouldn’t change a thing about them. Even their annoying habits, and quirks you get used to them. If one can not love you just the way you are then they never truly loved you. They loved the idea of who they perceived you to be.

      I hope you can find a nice place near your family again. You are right about the high rent. I used to live there. Please, don’t think in terms of how long will it take for things to return to normal. Just take one day at a time. Put one foot in front of the other and keep moving forward and you will be in your happy place again before you know it. Busy yourself with things that interest you. You must take care of yourself first before you can take care of anyone else.

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      • Dragthepen says:

        wow.your comment is very encouraging. I am not sad that the relationship didn’t work out, he wasn’t the right man for me. I am sadden by all the time, energy and money I had to use. Moving out of my place and having to move again and he never once offered to help me. I am doing what I can to adjust to my new surroundings, and I think the quietness is what I need at this time. Thank you.

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        • I’m always happy to help. Yes, moving is a big job. It’s very taxing, expensive, and exhausting. My mother used to say, “People are good at helping you into situations but helping you out of them is a whole ‘nother ball game.” Look at it as a learning curve. I do think it’s awful crappy of him not to pitch in and help you move. Did he help you move the first time? When you moved in? Maybe you can ask for his help if it’s a reasonable person to talk to.

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    • Sometimes you meet a lot of toads before you find your prince. 🙂 I know that sounds like a fantasy tale but all women know it’s true. But when you find him you will know it. Everything about you he will totally adores.

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    • I have lived in communities and towns where they tries to change you to behave like someone you aren’t. So I know where you are coming from with people trying to change you, And the thing about it is ‘who’ they are trying to change you into is a worst person than your actual core self but somehow in the trefoils of their mind they see this worst version of you as better. And then have the gall to get upset with you for refusing to change. LOL!

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  5. Manny says:

    I hope you ladies during mind a guy’s advice. Anytime a guy want you to move in quickly and doesn’t care about marriage. He’s seeing the relationship as a test drive. Leaving the door open in case things don’t work out. Men start nitpicking when we want to breakup and not look like a dog for doing so. Why on earth is a beautiful woman like her crying over some loser!? You ladies give us guys more power than we deserve.

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  6. Manny says:

    Remember ladies, when a man loves a woman in his eyes she can do nothing wrong. A man set aside a space in his wallet for his baby. That’s how we can whip it out so fast when she needs something.

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    • Aww, that’s sweet. We thought you guy materialized it out the thin air. LOL!

      When a Man Loves a Woman
      Percy Sledge

      When a man loves a woman
      Can’t keep his mind on nothing else
      He’ll trade the world
      For the good thing he’s found
      If she’s bad he can’t see it
      She can do no wrong
      Turn his back on his best friend
      If he put her down
      When a man loves a woman
      Spend his very last dime
      Trying to hold on to what he needs
      He’d give up all his comfort
      Sleep out in the rain
      If she said that’s the way it ought to be
      Well, this man loves a woman
      I gave you everything I had
      Trying to hold on to your precious love
      Baby, please don’t treat me bad
      When a man loves a woman
      Down deep in his soul
      She can bring him such misery
      If she plays him for a fool
      He’s the last one to know
      Loving eyes can’t ever see
      When a man loves a woman
      He can do no wrong
      He can never own some other girl
      Yes when a man loves a woman
      I know exactly how he feels
      ‘Cause baby, baby, baby, you’re my world
      When a man loves a woman

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  7. Brendan says:

    Thanks for the reminder. 😃

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