I was reading a post the other day where the young woman said, “People are always telling me to be myself but who is the real me? But who is the real me I can safely show to the world. The real anyone? No one shows their real, private face in public. It’s not acceptable and the internet make it’s harder for people to be real than not. I can’t reveal the real me. People wants to see the me they have in their minds of who I’m. Not who I am. No one wants to know or even bother to see the real me. No one wants to know that I’m every thing I’ve experienced in life.”
These aren’t her exact words but close enough. I thought about this post for several days and realize the writer was quite young but was right. Most have worn so many different “real you” they no longer know which one is real.
I don’t know what she experienced in life but I hope they help her to see that revealing her real self is a beautiful thing. That her real self is buried deep beneath all the smiling faces society forces her to wear cover her real face. To let her real face through and I’m sure it will shine and some will love it.
I would like her to know, yes, there will be some who walk away from you when they see you aren’t who they want you to be. But still be true to yourself because it’s you who will have live with yourself when all settles down and all is quiet.
I would like her to know that as you age and mature what others think of you matters less and less. It shrinks, it get smaller and smaller to the point you wake up one day not giving a damn.
This is liberating. It set you free to reveal the real you. No one is perfect. We all have faults and failures which leaves no one room to judge another. Anyone who say they are perfect and has never committed a wrong is a liar. No particular wrong isn’t greater than another. Wrong is wrong no matter who committed it.
Usually, a post doesn’t stay with me for a entire week but this one did because she sounded so lost and hurt someone was judging her. I want to tell her that whatever someone is judging her about that life is too short to waste time and energy worrying about them. They are projecting upon you their own opinion of themselves and don’t claim their feelings as her own.
I don’t have all the answers in the world. No one does but I do know that oftentimes you may have to walk though this world alone with no one at your side. That isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Walk it, don’t let whatever someone else is feeling or thinking keep you from making your journey. Keep revealing your true self. Some aren’t going to like you no matter which face you reveal. That’s their problem, not yours. Some are going to always follow popular opinion. These are not the kind of people you need around you. You need people around you who are steadfast in their thinking and opinion who won’t be wavered like a sheet blowing in the wind. So reveal your real face so you won’t have to worry about changing masks.
All we all can do is do our best and be at peace that we have done the best we could.