That fourteen and fifteen-year-old girls should not be dying at the hands of their lovers and boyfriends in relationships ruled by domestic violence.
That the all over acceptance of domestic violence in teen relationship started in the late seventies and escalated as years passed. Many parents are so busy trying to keep up the ridiculous facade of the innocence of a bygone era which in truth, never existed in reality. They are completely blind to the fact that their daughters are in one abusive relationship after another.
A young man said something that was very interesting, He said, “During high school if a girl gets labelled a bad name by other girls and labelled a punching bag for the guys if killed there will nothing done about it. She asked for it. That girls whose parents are so into appearances can easily get labelled a “punching bag” meaning she’s pretty passed around the beaters. Each of her boyfriends are going to be a ‘beater’. The beaters know this.” Several other young men nods in agreement with him.
This brief statement shone light into a teen subculture many parents do not know exist and if teachers have tried to tell them. They didn’t want to hear it because It wasn’t ‘nice’ or the boy was from a good family and wouldn’t do such a thing.
The instructor questioned him to elaborate.
He said, “You see, a group of girls start the campaign against the other girl by saying lewd things this girl. Things having with do sexuality in front of guys known to be beaters and abusers in hope that the guys will allure her away and abuse her or even kill her.”
The professor exclaimed, “This is exactly what I’m talking about. Society, mothers, and grandmothers have taught these girls that all girls or females are your competition, your enemy and must be eliminated. Taught women to behave like puppies prancing around for their owner approvals. This a carryover from an era when the comfort of your life depended solely upon the man you married.”
She talked about the family structures have changed in the last fifty years and the growing pains of this change is often met with violence.
She said with entertainment industry today more emphasis is being placed on the covers, bedazzled, flashing digits than the contents inside. There are too many books, music, and movies glorifying the abuse, mutilating, disease infliction, disfigurement, and mistreatment of girls and women and how it is subconsciously and many cases conscious awareness is presented, as a way to say and demonstrate the other half’s deep feelings about these changes. That this is a retaliation by the patriarch society of women stepping from under the foot of oppression that has shaped our societies and every aspect of women’ lives for the last ten thousand years. They aren’t willing to share the power as equal partners. Which caused some women to forego marriage an partnerships and go directly to motherhood. For thousands of years the males have been conditioned to receive more in a partnership than he’s willing to give. It all falls upon the females shoulders of doing the giving while the males have been conditioned from birth to take and to give only what he feels comfortable in giving. If he doesn’t feel comfortable in giving he isn’t held accountable for its failure. Nor the lives of the offsprings shall their lives deteriorate. She asked the class, “How any society is expecting responsible men when they’ve gave them the leeway to behave however they pleased in the most sacred structure of any society, the family? And if the other half doesn’t fall in line with the program they will be belittled, shamed, abused or in many cases killed?”
This is another book mentioned.