The Power of Sex and How to Wield it. By Samantha Collins

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I’m not the author of this book, I was asked to read it and write a review. Although, the topic is vastly different from those of my own books, nonetheless, I find it very interesting. It is not wholly an erotica book. But it does contain some erotica elements. It’s talking about sex and relationships. The information within it would be useful for today’s dating agenda. The rules of dating have drastically changed in the last twenty to thirty  years.  It talks about the pitfalls of modern dating and relationships such as domestic violence in dating and a whole array of other social issues and taboos.  

Ms. Collins talks about how latter-day women have been mentally conditioned to expect nothing from a relationship but sex.  I must agree with her that this may work glorious to the man’s advantage in a relationship but it’s not in the woman’s best interest to adapt since an attitude considering the patriarch system already work to the disadvantage of women and girls.

 I liked her fact gathering. She also wrote about the privileged versus the non privileged. I was especially intrigued and found it enlightening in how she explained how throughout history that quality of a woman’s life, how well she lived was/is solely based on her relationship to a man she’s having sex with. Even today, very little have changed in this aspect.  The book goes into great depths in explaining the history of how sex and women has been used as bargaining chip throughout human history and mostly women have been like pawn pieces.   

She calls the mental condition of submissiveness and dominance a form of mental bondage that society has conditioned its daughters to accept starting from infancy. Stating it has nothing to do with love nor romance but it’s all about male dominance and control. We see it everywhere in magazines, newspapers, novels. Almost every popular movie or book the female isn’t allowed to be too aggressive. If so, then there’s something wrong with her. It can’t be her true nature. She has to be mentally sick, mannish, or some type of problem like drugs or alcohol accounting for her assertive ways.  

She explains how the Misogynistic attitude toward girls and women accounts for the lucrative sex slave market still striving in many parts of the world.  

The book talks about how we are all sexually coaxed and manipulated by ads, movies, and advertisements, etc. There’s’ no real escaping it in the modern world.  It talks about how we unconsciously make decisions to buy items simply because the model exhibiting them are attractive.

It also talks about building confidence in young woman and girls. I would say it is a must read for any young woman or late teen in the dating world.  Some may view it as callous when she encouraged women to learn to think with their mind and not so much their heart. That getting involved with the wrong person can destroy your life to the point you may never recover. Homeless shelters, the streets, prisons and graveyards are fill of such women.One thing caught my attention was when she talked about there’s a caste system even in relationships. She said that among the rich the women are still encouraged to select a mate based upon his potentials while the poor are encouraged accept less suitable mates and hope for the best and give non-stop support even unto the point of many case it’s dangerous to do so. And are often berated if she refuses to do so.

For a debut literary work. I find it encouraging and engaging to teach women how to look out for their own interest.  I have read some like this but they were a little too unrealistic to be speaking of dealing with the real world. Ms. Collins is talking to the average woman not someone pulling in a six figure a year income.

Too often any book like this is viewed as disliking men or hating men but I have to tell you, that is not the case with this one. It’s like a girlfriend talk.

About unholypursuit

A. White, an award winning former librarian, who is also a long time member of Romantic Time and Publisher's Weekly. A. White has been writing for over fifteen years. She took classes in creative writing in college, specializing in ancient myths and legends. and later at a local community center while living in Chicago. In college she won the national contest to verbally list every country in the world, it's capital and ingenious language. Her works are mainly horror, fantasy, extreme, and sci-fi as well as, as some may says, "the truly strange predicament and puzzling." Books that I've written are "Clash with the Immortals, and eleven others which are part of the "Unholy Pursuit saga,". She has been working on the Chronicles since 2007. She wished to complete them all before introducing them to public so the readers wouldn't have to for the continuation to be written. The ideas of the book come from classic literature such as whose work greatly influence the world world such as Homer, Sophocles, Herodotus, Euripides, Socrates, Hippocrates, Aristophanes, Plato, Aristotle and many more. The "Book of Enoch" influenced the usage of Azazael as a main character and love interest. I created the primary main character from the Chronicle of Saints. I wanted to show them as real flesh and blood with thoughts, desires and yearning as any human. Not as they are so often depicted. So I created one of my own to show her as a real human that everyone can relate to.
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24 Responses to The Power of Sex and How to Wield it. By Samantha Collins

  1. I didn’t like the part where the author is focused on material gains in the relationship. A man that really wants to be with a woman don’t mind buying her things and helping her out financially. But a man do not like to feel that’s all the woman want from him. I know the author said that men date women based upon her beauty. That’s true and it shouldn’t be the case but it. So…I guess it all evens out since the real world isn’t idea.

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    • I am not the author of this book but this is my blog. I can’t speak for why the author focused on the material aspect of the relationship. Back when I was dating men were expected to bring a woman flowers and other inexpensive gifts. It shows how you feel about a person. A person is on their best behavior during courtship and if they behave shoddy during dating you can pretty much guess how things are going to go once a full commitment is made. I think she may had mentioned this because so many people go on dates dressed and acting like they are home in their bedroom. 🙂


  2. Cierra says:

    There’s a lot of useful relationship and dating knowledge in this book. Does this author have any more books. I searched and I didn’t find any.

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    • Yes, Ms. Collins is informative about love and human relationships. I think she has another one. At least she asked me to read it. I was asked to read a manuscript and give my personal pointers about it.


  3. Blonde Bombshell says:

    I’ve read so many books regarding relationships and lovers. Most were written for a fantasy world not the real world. However this book is genuinely written with reality in mind, keep it up.


  4. Valorie says:

    Hi!,I love your writing very much! I shared this book after reading it. Can you get in touch with me? I require a specialist in this area to unravel my problem.
    May be that’s you! Looking forward to hearing from you.


  5. Selene says:

    Heya I’m here for the first time. I was unable to find any other way to contact this author so I’m writing here. She has a lot good relationship points. I wish I could’ve found this book when I was younger. LOL!


  6. Jane says:

    At first, I didn’t like the book. I thought the author was being a little snobbery. But I re-read it and she’s right. My generation do not enforce the idea of respect.


  7. Robert says:

    Sensible advice for a healthy love life. Not the swinger mentality so popular today.


  8. Alan says:

    Not what I expected but a good book.


  9. Zenith says:

    I hope to read more from Samantha Collins.


  10. Carl says:

    She’s right. Guys do not marry the butt girl. Some practices a woman could keep to herself if she’s looking to get married.


  11. Charles says:

    Gave a copy to my adult daughters.


  12. Susan says:

    Invaluable information.


  13. Nina says:

    Interesting concept.


  14. Maryilyn says:

    It’s a wake-up call for young women. Doing all the things that a man command you to do will not make him love you. It only make you a Pickmeisha

    A low maintenance woman who devalues other women by doing the following:

    A) Going 50/50 with him under the guise of building him;
    B) Allowing a man to build on her by getting his money up while giving her lowest ROI;
    C) Paying for dates and giving him money to keep him;
    D) Allowing him to be comfortable and content, while he seeks the women he wants;
    E) Letting him borrow her car while she’s at work;
    F) Thinking it’s ok for him to be a grown man still living with momma, but thinking he’s going to get himself right and give you the world when he’s really not;
    G) An everyday “Pick Me” who hangs out with Pickmeishaes and talk about how great the men using them are.

    This book tell you how not to be a woman who devalues other woman for male approval.


  15. Timothy says:

    At least she wasn’t male bashing. She was speaking the truth about jerks who wants to use women strictly for sex.


  16. Davis Whig says:

    Useful information.


  17. Elwood says:

    Modern advice for modern situations.


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