The Power of Sex and How to Wield it. By Samantha Collins

 

I’m not the author of this book, I was asked to read it and write a review. Although, the topic is vastly different from those of my own books, nonetheless, I find it very interesting. It is not wholly an erotica book. But it does contain some erotica elements. It’s talking about sex and relationships. The information within it would be useful for today’s dating agenda. The rules of dating have drastically changed in the last twenty to thirty  years.  It talks about the pitfalls of modern dating and relationships such as domestic violence in dating and a whole array of other social issues and taboos.  

Ms. Collins talks about how latter-day women have been mentally conditioned to expect nothing from a relationship but sex.  I must agree with her that this may work glorious to the man’s advantage in a relationship but it’s not in the woman’s best interest to adapt since an attitude considering the patriarch system already work to the disadvantage of women and girls.

 I liked her fact gathering. She also wrote about the privileged versus the non privileged. I was especially intrigued and found it enlightening in how she explained how throughout history that quality of a woman’s life, how well she lived was/is solely based on her relationship to a man she’s having sex with. Even today, very little have changed in this aspect.  The book goes into great depths in explaining the history of how sex and women has been used as bargaining chip throughout human history and mostly women have been like pawn pieces.   

She calls the mental condition of submissiveness and dominance a form of mental bondage that society has conditioned its daughters to accept starting from infancy. Stating it has nothing to do with love nor romance but it’s all about male dominance and control. We see it everywhere in magazines, newspapers, novels. Almost every popular movie or book the female isn’t allowed to be too aggressive. If so, then there’s something wrong with her. It can’t be her true nature. She has to be mentally sick, mannish, or some type of problem like drugs or alcohol accounting for her assertive ways.  

She explains how the Misogynistic attitude toward girls and women accounts for the lucrative sex slave market still striving in many parts of the world.  

The book talks about how we are all sexually coaxed and manipulated by ads, movies, and advertisements, etc. There’s’ no real escaping it in the modern world.  It talks about how we unconsciously make decisions to buy items simply because the model exhibiting them are attractive.

It also talks about building confidence in young woman and girls. I would say it is a must read for any young woman or late teen in the dating world.  Some may view it as callous when she encouraged women to learn to think with their mind and not so much their heart. That getting involved with the wrong person can destroy your life to the point you may never recover. Homeless shelters, the streets, prisons and graveyards are fill of such women.One thing caught my attention was when she talked about there’s a caste system even in relationships. She said that among the rich the women are still encouraged to select a mate based upon his potentials while the poor are encouraged accept less suitable mates and hope for the best and give non-stop support even unto the point of many case it’s dangerous to do so. And are often berated if she refuses to do so.

For a debut literary work. I find it encouraging and engaging to teach women how to look out for their own interest.  I have read some like this but they were a little too unrealistic to be speaking of dealing with the real world. Ms. Collins is talking to the average woman not someone pulling in a six figure a year income.

Too often any book like this is viewed as disliking men or hating men but I have to tell you, that is not the case with this one. It’s like a girlfriend talk.