Too many “I LOVE HIM’s” in a book are annoying.

I just read a book recommended to me for a review where I didn’t know it was possible for the nearly the entire book to be about how much the main character loves her man.I’m serious…I kept turning pages looking for the mental disorder that was bound to be revealed soon. But nope, there was none, this was supposedly a sane character.

The book read like this:

I love him so much I can’t function when he isn’t around. (swooning) I can’t sleep, eat or even use the bathroom.

                                          I love him!

I love him! Never mind he does bad things to me. I just love him        to  pieces.

(Give me a reason why the character love him to pieces. Not simply because he’s handsome, has a hot bod, rich or have cute dimples. I need more than that. There has to be something in it for the woman besides the extreme mental aggravation. If not, then the story is pure misogynistic. That sounds like something from pre-feminisn days.)

I read a little further, it doesn’t take much long to get to another declaration of her love for him.

I love him.

The other women in his life are all bad. I’m the only one good.  He proves it by treating everyone like trash for me. ( graphically, rolling my eyes)

                           I love him!


I love him!


  I love him!

My girlfriends won’t tell me I’m obsessed because they support me. They stand behind me in my madness.

I’m just now learning he’s cheating.

Now, I’m out of control with my blind obsession. I’m finding out who he is cheating with. I must kill her. I must have him all to myself. I’ll  kill, hurt maim or destroy anyone who comes between me and my undying love.

(Sorry, dear but you’re staring at a jail sentence.)

My heart is scattered. I’m dying because he is still cheating and I can’t find out who is the other woman. He lies about everything. But I still can’t leave him. I’m not leaving him because he will move in with her.

Did the character get out of the relationship? Yes and no. She moves on to another man exhibiting the same insecure attachments but try to maintain a friendship with the first obsession.

Sorry, I can’t  write a review on such asinine novel. I don’t care if it was written by a best selling author.

This isn’t love. This is not romance.  This is an unhealthy obsession.

About unholypursuit

A. White, an award winning former librarian who is also long time member of Romantic Time and Publisher's Weekly. A. White has been writing for over fifteen years. She took classes in creative writing in college, specializing in ancient myths and legends. and at a local community center while living in Chicago. In college she won the national contest to verbally list every country in the world, it's capital and ingenious language. Her works are mainly horror, fantasy, extreme, and sci-fi as well as, as some may says, "the truly strange predicament and puzzling." Books that I've written are "Clash with the Immortals, and eleven others which are part of the "Unholy Pursuit saga,". She has been working on the Chronicles since 2007. She wished to complete them all before introducing them to public so the readers wouldn't have to for the continuation to be written. The ideas of the book come from classic literature such as whose work greatly influence the world world such as Homer, Sophocles, Herodotus, Euripides, Socrates, Hippocrates, Aristophanes, Plato, Aristotle and many more. The "Book of Enoch" influenced the usage of Azazael as a main character and love interest. I created the primary main character from the Chronicle of Saints. I wanted to show them as real flesh and blood with thoughts, desires and yearning as any human. Not as they are so often depicted. So I created one of my own to show her as a real human that everyone can relate to.
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14 Responses to Too many “I LOVE HIM’s” in a book are annoying.

  1. Rarely I come across a book I won’t review after reading it.


  2. Nadine says:

    This might be the best non-book-review I’ve read in a long while. I like your technique!

    Liked by 1 person

    • Thanks you.
      I mean…I understood where the story was coming from. It was coming from a place of suffering, low self-esteem and pop culture’s push that such extremes are the epitomes of true love and the impressible minds of the young accept it as this is how love is supposed to be.


  3. baroness says:

    Heⅼlo there! I’m glad somebody finally said it.

    Liked by 1 person

  4. Saksgirl says:

    I thought it was just me. But it is sad anyone consider depreciation and deprivation as loving. It sounds like urban romance you were reading. Some are so disturbing with abuse toward women it’s scary. I say you work on your own books instead reading and reviewing other’s books.

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  5. Amara says:

    Yeah, I know what you mean. I’ve read love stories like the one you’re talking about and it grates my nerves all the main character does is sigh and profess their love for the the supporting protagonist. The book start to bore you after a while. One or five times are enough for the reader to know that the characters love each other. But like you said, they go on and on with pages after pages. Gee!I tossed those books.

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    • I think all things are best delivered in moderation even in writing. Repetition is fine if it’s to illustrate a point or situation or to show the depth of the situation, but to constantly repeat emotions or any attributes of the novel can drag the story down. If a character is doing same thing every paragraph with no progress means the author isn’t moving the story forward.

      Of course, if it’s a horror war story there will be repetition of screaming, moaning, groaning and suffering because someone is constantly inflicting pain.


  6. Lorijarvis says:

    I don’t mind love constantly being expressed as long as the couple is doing something in between their uttering how much they love each other. For example if they express their love after over coming a conflict or tribulation. But constantly saying it for the sake of filling a page get boring.
    I think this book you’re speaking of was written for a young teen.

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  7. Thaila says:

    It’s Ok to use lots of them as long as they serves a point. But no it’s not OK, just to use ‘I love you’s’ as page fillers anymore than it’s OK to use anything repetitive as page filler.

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  8. Larue Glass says:

    I don’t mind them as long as they’re relevant in telling the story. Say for instance if a couple say it every night before bed time and one night one of them do not say it. It alert the other that something is wrong.

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