I thought this article presented some interesting points for those trying to find themselves and build self-esteem.
I hope one day everyone reaches the assurance that keeping up appearances no longer matter. Just so long as you’re happy and healthy. That’s all that matter.
I’m aware that in the business world these things are a must do.
There’s no single formula for exuding an air of shit-togetherness. It’s one of those intangible things, like some sort of ~aura~ that makes you seem like you really have it together. But in my completely unscientific opinion, there are some little things things that convey that you’re doing just fine at this whole “existing” thing — even when you’re not. So here’s how you might be able to fake it:
Have a signature accessory, clothing article, make up look, or hair style.
Have a fragrance. Make your hair scents and lotions match your perfume.
It’s okay to dine alone. Bring a book or people watch.
Love your hair. Research the best brands for your hair type and use masks weekly.
Your nails don’t need to be fancy, but keep them maintained.
Stay worldly. Know works of art, artists, designers, films, books, politicians. Spend your lunch break reading the paper or a magazine.
Crying is not a weapon. It’s okay to feel your emotions, but never use them as an excuse to avoid your problems.
Jealously is boring. Love and appreciated others. If you can’t love them, forget them.
Boost others. Flatter others, but don’t deprecate yourself in the process.
Don’t sulk. Don’t let the whole world know your problems. If you don’t want someone to give their opinion, don’t share your situation.
Your life is between you and the universe. Don’t post your personal matters for others to see.
Don’t emotionally blackmail others. They hurt you? Let them know and then move on. It’s between the two of your and not the world.
Cook dinner. Cook dinner and listen to music, the radio, or a podcast.
Treat yourself to candles and flowers. Be your own cheerleader.
Take naps. Take a cat nap on a Sunday afternoon with the blends open and the fan on high.
Drink your water, eat your vegetables. Take care of your body.
Never have time to take off your jewellery before bed, but always have time to take off your makeup. Your nighttime skin regime is important.
Mystery is beautiful. You don’t need to reveal much of or about yourself.
Never appear other than as you are. Don’t lie about yourself. Embrace who you are at your core.