‘It’s devastating’: Margaret Atwood on a musical project honouring women killed by partners

Margaret Atwood has known two women who were murdered, ‘both by jealous former romantic partners. This pandemic has made domestic violence much worst. It’s still a crime that isn’t meaningfully addressed. She is working with Composer Jake Heggie and baritone Joshua Hopkins.

https://www.theguardian.com/books/2021/mar/05/songs-for-murdered-sisters-margaret-atwood-domestic-violence-musical-project

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A. White, an award winning former librarian, who is also a long time member of Romantic Time and Publisher's Weekly. A. White has been writing for over fifteen years. She took classes in creative writing in college, specializing in ancient myths and legends. and later at a local community center while living in Chicago. In college she won the national contest to verbally list every country in the world, it's capital and ingenious language. Her works are mainly horror, fantasy, extreme, and sci-fi as well as, as some may says, "the truly strange predicament and puzzling." Books that I've written are "Clash with the Immortals, and eleven others which are part of the "Unholy Pursuit saga,". She has been working on the Chronicles since 2007. She wished to complete them all before introducing them to public so the readers wouldn't have to for the continuation to be written. The ideas of the book come from classic literature such as whose work greatly influence the world world such as Homer, Sophocles, Herodotus, Euripides, Socrates, Hippocrates, Aristophanes, Plato, Aristotle and many more. The "Book of Enoch" influenced the usage of Azazael as a main character and love interest. I created the primary main character from the Chronicle of Saints. I wanted to show them as real flesh and blood with thoughts, desires and yearning as any human. Not as they are so often depicted. So I created one of my own to show her as a real human that everyone can relate to.
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23 Responses to ‘It’s devastating’: Margaret Atwood on a musical project honouring women killed by partners

  1. Lets make it clear who kills women. MEN, male partners are the ones who overwhelmingly kill their female partners. If we shy away from naming the group that kill women, overwhelmingly male, then we do a great disservice to the dead, and fail to help the living who are still suffering.

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    • I agree 100%. However, we could go a few steps further, name all who harm women because oftentimes harming women mean harming children and sometime the culprit includes other women. Sadly, there are misogynistic women out there who gets away with this behavior because most of the focus in on men. Not, that men aren’t guilty because they are, but I believe to curb the violence, all culprits needs to be addressed.

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      • The only trouble with naming and shaming is that the woman who has been hurt is often in extreme danger from the abuser, as are the children of the marriage. The legal system has the responsibility to remove these men from society, not the victims who have barely survived.

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        • You’re right, these abused women are often in extreme danger from the abuser and so are the children. You’re right society do need to remove these men from the woman and child(ren). There need to be a way they can be removed without the woman losing her home and security. Unfortunately, too many women who are victims of domestic violence do not work outside the home and he is their security.

          We have made some progress but not nearly enough. There is still a long way to go.

          The society is set up nowadays where one has to show their whole life history to get a job or a place to stay which makes it very easy for the abuser to find her if she leaves. If the legal system gave them protective identities that would help out a whole lot.

          You misunderstood me, I didn’t mean name or shame the woman who has been hurt or is still being hurt. I meant name every single person who is hurting her. Often these abusers are not working alone. Too often, these abusers have friends helping them. And a lot of times the friends helping them are misogynistic women. I used to work in a domestic violence shelter. I know that these women who hurt other women actually exist.

          It’s often was one of these misogynistic women who told the abuser where his wife is located and have managed to get inside the shelters by pretending to be a victim. No one pay these women attentions because they are females and everyone assume they won’t harm another woman, but they will. In order to stop the violence, the system is going to have hold everyone accountable not just he abuser.

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          • Naming the abuser, means identifying the abused. As the survivor of extreme domestic violence, and someone who is living in a shelter now because of losing both home and visa, I do not need telling how it is.

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            • I am terribly sorry. I had no idea you were a victim of domestic violence. I understand what you means now. I truly hope you can find the help you need to escape.

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              • I have escaped, I am far away, safe with my child, and making a new life all be it in a shelter for now. If you are interested in listening and learning, my post Marriage is murder, and the one entitled Read Before Burning, might help give you an insight. I list all of my posts on domestic violence under “writing the past”

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              • No need to be sorry. Im sorry for women who are more vulnerable than I am, who have not managed to escape, and who are still trapped, and expectations of other women as to their behavior and actions, as to whether they prosecute and publicize or try and disappear and live, weigh very heavy at that point in time. We all seek approval. We all need other women to say “I understand. You did the best you could.” Quite often all we hear is “I could have done better, you should do this this way.” It is far too much on very physically damaged people. Im deaf in one ear, Ive permanent nerve damage, Ive damaged sight in one eye, and lost so very much, including my home.

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                • I, too feel for women who are still trapped in violent marriages and relationships. I’m glad you made it out. And made it out with your children. It sounded like the customs of that country was geared solely toward the men’s advance. I’m guessing it was a Middle Eastern nation. You don’t have to verify it but I am assuming this by what you wrote.

                  I read your suggested readings, it took courage to describe that which was written in Marriage Is Murder. During my years of working as consult. I don’t believe I encountered any international situations. I have heard of the Hague Law and what it was designed to do has not worked.

                  You are right, marriage is a gamble. A woman doesn’t know what she is getting when she gets married. It’s not the woman’s fault if the man she married turned out to be a terrible person. People often say, “What did she marry him for?” But they fail to realize that most abusive people are great charmers. They don’t display these tendencies during courtship. Pregnancy is viewed by controllers and abusers as a permanent attachment to them as to why the first act of violence usually occurs during the first pregnancy.

                  The things you talked about is why I never understood how could another woman help a man out in doing such things to their own gender? But sadly, many of them do.

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                  • No, not middle eastern. I was in Japan. Yes, he got very jealous as soon as I was pregnant with our planned baby.
                    My own mother supported him, as did his sister. I never understand it either. I wonder if they feel safer if they think the abusive man considers them on side? Maybe they are just bad people! I don’t know, I don’t talk to any of them.

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  2. Cele says:

    Paltry Sum, first, I would like to say I’m proud of you for getting out. So many women don’t and never do.

    I don’t think A. was trying to tell you like it is. I think she was trying to say that every one involved in harming women like you must be prosecuted in order to actually curb domestic violence. I understand the pain. No, I have never been through what you have endured but I know the meaning of pain. I know when trying to crusade to help others all the hostility isn’t going to aid your cause in helping others. You are going to have to bring yourself to talk calmer in order to get help for others.

    Because people….I don’t know how to explain this but people have a withdrawing response to the discussion of real pain and suffering. I don’t know why but they do. The women you know. Those you left behind. It’s you who will have to become their voice like Malala Yousafzai became the voice of school girls in Pakistan.

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  3. When I detect the bad smell of racism towards other cultures, and thus towards my own child, yes, of course I am hostile. When I sense the whole real women need a man bullshit, of course it is my right to say, hey no, that is not right. Im not here to make you all feel better, Im not the kind of person to flatter. I tell it like it is, and if you don’t like it, dont read. I certainly have no energy for being fake. Are people so overly sensitive that they cannot take polite dissent?

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  4. Cele says:

    I’m not one to flatter anyone either. I don’t have that within me. I’m not so sure of what you’re talking about here and I’m not too sure you are either. I was not talking about defending your son from racial attack. That’s expected of all mothers. What I was talking about is the attitude. Just because you have been through a lot of shyt doesn’t give you the right to insult people trying to help or understand you. I’m African American, I deal with racism every minute of every day and so does my kids. But I taught them to rise above it. Don’t let other people’s pettiness drag them down and that is what you are going to have to teach your son. You can’t change people. Racist people were taught at an early age to be a racist and most will likely die a racist. You can’t change that. Yes, things are better here in the US but we have a long way to go.

    Let me clarify to you what racism feels like. Picture what you went though with in your domestic violence ordeal…well something akin to that is what black people in America go through every day from the cradle to the grave. Every single thing you do, say, or is allowed or permitted to do is solely determined by your race. Who you are as a person is totally irrelevant. Every privilege, right or action in your life is based solely upon your race.

    Like for instance, how you had to be caution or careful in every detail of everyday life not to upset your husband or there would be harmful consequences. That’s how African Americans live their lives and feel in a society which do not view them as equal citizens.They must be careful at all times not to upset the establishment or they end up in a coffin. It is not always the police that kills them. It’s the deep rooted systematic racism that kills them.

    Just like you did all the work to keep the household together and no one appreciated it. Well, the same applies to African Americans. We have done all the hard, back-breaking work to build this country but enjoy very little benefit. We did all the work and received no pay for it. Not even an apology is given for how we are treated. You try and talk about it, then people get uncomfortable. They don’t want to talk about it. They wanna pretend nothing is happening.

    So, don’t dare tell me I’m sensitive and I don’t understand what these women are going through.

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  5. Cele says:

    Why are you defending a culture that sit back and watch him treat you like shyt? A culture don’t mean a damn thing if it is not helping and protecting you. This is what I was talking about in regards to your rudeness. The constant chip on your shoulder is not going to go very far in getting the support you are going to need in order to help others. People don’t have to do anything for you or anyone else. In the owner of this blog, you’re talking to perhaps the most caring blogger I have found on WordPress. Most people [bloggers] here would not have tried to understand your situation because they would not have given two shyts.

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