Everyone deserves relationships free from domestic violence. That was not the case for a local child. Another child lost his life to domestic violence.
I’m all for making a relationship work— if one has a real relationship in order to make work. But I’m not for staying in abusive relationships allegedly for the sake of the children.
The foolishness in trying to make something work that one see is broken has become acceptable behavior and viewed as having a deep and profound relationship. Abuse is abuse no matter how much you loves the other person.
Some abusers are not abusive toward the woman, but are abusive to the children. Far too many young children lose their lives in domestic violence. Parents, single or married, have to be on the look out for this type of abuse.
It’s better to live below your accustomed standard of living and your child is free from abuse than to stay in luxury and your child live in fear for his or her life. All of these cases are not an unrelated-to-the-child boyfriend or a girlfriend. Some are the other parent.
Single parents have to be extra valiant and on the look out for such abusers. Your child(ren) are counting on you to protect them from the outside world.
Too often, the way things are set up works against a single mother needs affordable child care. Too often to make ends meet she entrust the child to someone she recently started dating. She doesn’t know the person well enough to trust him with her child. The average cost to provide center-based child care for an infant to toddler in the United States is $1,230 per month. Most women do not make this kind of money. The average woman makes $2,583 per month after child care let’s hope her rent or mortgage is below $1,000 or she will have very little left for food and other essentials.
We’re hypocrites when we say we love the children but yet do nothing to make their lives safe. We as a society is more concerned about breaks for big corporations than the welfare of a small helpless child.
I know it is hard being single and raising children alone. I have been there. Done that. But tightening the belt until the whole family is uncomfortable is sometimes a must and it’s always better being alone and your child is happy and safe. When they grow up is time enough to date again.