Only you can make you happy.

Only you can make you happy.

Originally Posted onAugust 11, 2018byunholypursuit

One of you all asked me to repost this article. Thanks for your request.

Happy Woman

I see it all over the place. There are zillions of posts, poems, movies, books all over place of someone else making someone happy.  No, they didn’t. You chose to be happy with that person from the way they treated you. Their generous treatment and kindness caused you to open your heart to their love.

Physical attraction isn’t love. It may or may not blossom into love. But if it does that’s great.

Now,  the revert of their action can make you sad and cause great pain if their affection is withheld or your returned affection is abused. Yes, there’s pain but only you can decide how long you’ll hold on or cling to the pain. Only you can decide when to give it up they won’t change, and seek a new love. No one else can do that for you.

You can’t see forward in life and love constantly if you’re looking back over that which you can not change, nor return to the past and change it. Like I said in the post about time. We only have a limited number of years to exist. Why waste them on someone whom you aren’t in their heart and thoughts when you can be living your life and seeking someone who can see the love you have to give and appreciate it?

In books and movies suffering for unrequited love is romantic but in reality it is not. I have heard it said, “that a heart wants what a heart wants.” Maybe true, but the mind and body is whose doing the hurting, so, they need to tell the heart to shut up and move on. It isn’t like the person died. It’s they simply left the relationship for whatever reason.

After a break up, people often feels they aren’t lovable because of one person’s opinion.  Says who that you aren’t lovable any more? Never enter a relationship solely to see yourself through the eyes of another. It’s wonderful if you find that special someone in whose face light up the moment they see you. There’s no grander feeling. But if things doesn’t work out learn to pull back not become a heart hermit refusing to love again.

If your conscious actions contributed to the breakup then be frank and honest with yourself as to why they left. You can’t say you wasn’t expecting it. You knew it would someday happen if you didn’t mend your ways. So what’s all the crying and lamentations about when you did this to yourself?

When I say only you can make you happy I am not speaking of situations beyond your control. I am strictly speaking of situations within your control. So, start making yourself happy and others will see your happiness and wants to be a part of it.

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About unholypursuit

A. White, an award winning former librarian, who is also a long time member of Romantic Time and Publisher's Weekly. A. White has been writing for over fifteen years. She took classes in creative writing in college, specializing in ancient myths and legends. and later at a local community center while living in Chicago. In college she won the national contest to verbally list every country in the world, it's capital and ingenious language. Her works are mainly horror, fantasy, extreme, and sci-fi as well as, as some may says, "the truly strange predicament and puzzling." Books that I've written are "Clash with the Immortals, and eleven others which are part of the "Unholy Pursuit saga,". She has been working on the Chronicles since 2007. She wished to complete them all before introducing them to public so the readers wouldn't have to for the continuation to be written. The ideas of the book come from classic literature such as whose work greatly influence the world world such as Homer, Sophocles, Herodotus, Euripides, Socrates, Hippocrates, Aristophanes, Plato, Aristotle and many more. The "Book of Enoch" influenced the usage of Azazael as a main character and love interest. I created the primary main character from the Chronicle of Saints. I wanted to show them as real flesh and blood with thoughts, desires and yearning as any human. Not as they are so often depicted. So I created one of my own to show her as a real human that everyone can relate to.
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26 Responses to Only you can make you happy.

  1. macalder02 says:

    When we reflect within ourselves and balance our minds, this type of reflection will help us form a stronger self-esteem and a more realistic view of the world. The important thing is not to deceive ourselves and discard what does not allow us to be happy. Your article is very illustrative. A propitious guide to better understand our life. Greetings.

    Liked by 2 people

  2. Happiness is a choice and joy is a state of the spirit and heart. Great message and reminder Alma! 😍💖🤩

    Liked by 1 person

  3. Clara says:

    Thanks for reposting it. I found it by looking through your old posts.

    Liked by 2 people

  4. vermavkv says:

    Yes, happiness is a choice. Nice article.

    Liked by 1 person

  5. Great message Alma and nice to meet you. Thanks for stopping in. ❣️

    Liked by 1 person

  6. Hadley says:

    Their treat can cause you to love them as it can equally cause you to leave them.


    • Yes, treatment can cause you to love someone or leave them.


      • Hadley says:

        I say circumstances in life furcate happiness more so than choice.

        Liked by 1 person

        • I agree life’s circumstance can fork into happiness moreso than a deliberate choice. But most people doesn’t even realize they made a conscious decision to be happy, it just happens and they enjoy it. And when I say this I don’t mean people going through trying times in life. I was referring to people who aren’t suffering anything that life demands. Not those suffering from want of food, shelter or clothing. Not those suffering from illnesses.


  7. Wonderful post Hadley but happiness is multidimensional concept and it’s solely depends on your inner attitude, perception and many others factors.

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  8. Alisha says:

    I think it depends upon the person’s place in life and situations in life as to whether they are in a place to be happy. I will admit I hate the modern day assumption that people must be happy all the time or something is wrong with them. That’s so unrealistic.

    Let’s suppose a person is going through some difficult times in life. Naturally, they are not going to be happy. Happiness is not something one can simply decide to be. Sometimes life situations don’t allow happiness.I say let happiness come in its own time. Don’t try to force it. It’s okay not to be happy sometimes.

    On Wed, Nov 2, 2022 at 10:22 AM

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    • Thank you Alisha, maybe I didn’t make myself clear. Sorry. I wasn’t speaking of people going through trying times in life. I was referring to people who aren’t suffering anything that life demands. Not those suffering from want of food, shelter or clothing. Not those suffering from illnesses.


      • Alisha says:

        I got ya. I pointed it out because so many people go around saying this and have no idea what it means. It’s usually the privileged who go around saying this. The worst time I’ve heard people tell someone this is after a tragic has struck. That is so thoughtless.

        On Thu, Nov 10, 2022 at 1:08 AM

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